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Squeaky Clean


Stories are told of old – stories of love, romance and their estrangement. In the court of love, nothing is fair, nothing is trivial and yet everything should be looked at in respect to both parties. The suitor proposes, the betrothed can initially accept only to be swayed by other trappings on the sides. Love is unique and weird at the same time. How do you explain loving someone that you would die for them? Self preservation is the ultimate promise any human being holds. This denotes our DNA.

We do it subconsciously – we lie to save our skin, we choose the best and leave the rest for others, we pray for blessing for ourselves for hours on end yet mumble a line or two for others. We do this to protect ourselves. The selfish motive is to make sure we insulate ourselves against hurt. We get caught up – we set ourselves up in the wake of love. We ignite the fires and it is called upon us to keep the flame alive.

We outdo ourselves in the language of love. We present flowers, chocolates among other gifts even poetry.Unfortunately many leave “the chase” as their love is accepted and matures. I believe “the chase” as it is popularly known can be reinvented to create that challenge required to keep the fire burning. In this I submit to you that both parties require to work in the chase – dress the part, talk the part, walk the part, faith the part and even pray the part. There is an illusion that the man in the relationship should be the one to “chase”. I beg to differ and say it is symbiotic -the roles of give or take are exchangeably reversed for every scenario.

There is no perfection in any human being but we pursue it and progress.   We sharpen one another and together it has been proved a lot more can be achieved. It can never be clean but we can achieve squeaky clean status when we both exert ourselves.

 

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Gifts & Super Gifts


The social media scene in Kenya and beyond was awakened on late Saturday by the flamboyant gift one husband  received from his wife of one year business woman Laura Akunga.Laura Akunga

 

 

 

 

 

 

The photo of the said gift had a price tag for a caption and surprisingly the censoring of the number plate did not hinder leakage of the actual details.Lauras Gift

 

 

 

 

This is no ordinary gift within the majority of Kenyans but it is also not an extra-ordinary gift when one loves or for the romantic at heart. In history we have countless romantics and lovers that gave body organs, built world wonders, exquisite, bizarre ,expensive gifts even to the point of death. Shakespeare quips in his love story Romeo & JulietMy bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee, The more I have, for both are infinite

The Bible recounts in Songs of Solomon vii: vi

“…for love is strong as death,
    jealousy[a] is fierce as the grave.[b]
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
    the very flame of the Lord.
Many waters cannot quench love,
    neither can floods drown it…

That is why philosophy embodies the words  “In love & in war all is fair“. There are those that cannot imagine a scenario where they can gift anyone high value things. Then there are those that can cross valleys, rivers, mountains and rivers as R.Kelly lyrics in his song Angel for the one they love. No value is big enough to express ourselves in love.

The story of the Taj Mahal is a story of one emperor who built it to show his love.

Taj Mahal

The Hanging Gardens was also a symbol and gift of love.

Hanging Gardens

Governments and countries resources of old and to come have been run-down on loves account. Where leaders wanted to make statements of love to their lovers. In this case Laura needs to be allowed to do as she pleases for her love. She needs to be spared the vitriol in social media for she has used what is at her disposal to honour her man in her fashion. Rev. Lukas Njenga once advised me that a person shares his love language – the most important thing is to align your showcase with the other person’s love language. There are ladies who cherish flowers as gifts. There are those that would not hear any of it. There are those that cherish cows and many other different things. So he went on to say – our expressions of love need to be in line with the person’s love language to be fully appreciated and connect.

Have we had Laura’s husband complain that the gift is not his love language? No. Even if he differed the way is was offered with cameras in the glare and friends to boot – no man worthy his salt can raise a complain then. And now that everyone knows the color of the vehicle gift and number plate – he might not be comfortable using it lest it be branded ” Laura’s gift car” whenever it drives past onlookers.

I am sure he has offered his fair share of quality gifts  to Laura. If we will ever come to know of the details that is another story. He may not be as “showy” as Laura. For she is a strong brand and nothing from her is short of a script and camera. As a branding entrepreneur we have to give it upto her. She waltz into news, rumours and dances her way into headlines. Remember she chose to wed the man on valentines day – 14TH February 2014. And her wedding was nothing short of a celebrity affair. I was privileged to make the invite list and to say the least it was charming.

Salute to Laura’s bold love statement – cheers to the many lovers who have given good gifts and super gifts. Big-up to “sponsors” (my friend Victor Ogolah and Spencer Okach introduced me to this word) who repeatedly give Demios, Vitz and other good tiny cars among other gifts to the “sponsees”.

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